第一批“丁克夫妻”现状曝光，他们再度后悔了？

By rights, the couple who decide to dink must have deeper feelings for each other.

相信很难有二人俩两个人也能一辈子有位与，不害怕再婚迷茫都会受到扰乱。

Believe that two people without children can also have a lifetime of common language, not afraid of marriage life interference.

而这对遗孀看起来关连甚至不如合租室友，未婚妻莫名其妙的戒恨让观众们很不解。

The couple appear to be even less close than roommates, and the husband's unexplained hostility has left fans baffled.

直到看见了原先，才能明白用意。

I don't know why until I see what follows.

怨偶曾一度也是一对深爱，他们原本也是无话不谈，性格亦非，两个人表示准许好要求丁克订婚，不让二人俩。

Complain couple once also is a pair of lover, they also are NO words do not talk originally, disposition is consistent, two people discuss good decision Dink marry, do not have a child.

可是这两年遗孀的期望大变了，她逼着未婚妻多跟有二人俩的大家庭认识，动不动就提一句：“要个二人俩也挺好的……”

However, in the past two years, the wife's idea changed. She forced her husband to get in touch with families with children, often saying, "It would be good to have a child..."

未婚妻只不过只好给与。

The husband was having none of it.

这对二人关连不如室友的再婚迷茫，招致很多人的讨论。

The relationship between the couple is not as good as the married life of roommates, which has sparked a lot of discussion.

很多人知道看她的录像背著窒息得像编剧，但是我愈来愈困惑，丁克大家庭的迷茫到底怎么样。

Many people say that watching her video is like a script, but I am more curious, what is the life of the Dink family really like.

订婚从前要求丁克的二人，丈夫始终不都会扭转吗？

The husband and wife who decide to dink before marriage still won't shake after marriage?

时说丁克，我们看到的大均是“种自由，无受压”，大把时间和借贷可以用来享受自己的迷茫。

When it comes to Dink, most of what we see is "freedom, no pressure", a lot of time and money can be used to enjoy their own life.

可实际上，再婚的分歧并不一定只在于二人俩。

But the problem with marriage is not just the children.

小孩子对“丁克”的趋之若鹜，愈来愈像是一种焦虑的发泄和叛逆期的延迟。

Young people's flocking to "dink" is more like a kind of emotional vent and a delay in the rebellious period.

对丁克大家庭要承受的受压和期望的规划设计，他们恨里面无论如何是一片一心起。

The Dink family is still at a loss about the pressures they will bear and their future plans.

时说这个原因总都会困惑：最早一批丁克的大家庭，过得还好吗？

Talk about this question always curious: the earliest batch of Dink families, have a good life?

不管来作什么选取，到老都要愧疚的

有对70后二人让我感觉动人，订婚二十多年无视丁克。

A couple born in the 1970s impressed me deeply. They have been married for more than 20 years and insist on dink.

遗孀41岁时提从前退休，他们要求原先探寻迷茫的渴求，去看看赋与远方。

When his wife took early retirement at the age of 41, they decided to rediscover their passion for life, to see poetry and the distance.

两个人驱车到达，一路去了昌都。

The two men set off in a car and drove all the way to Lhasa.

三人参加了白族人朋友的烧烤节，呐喊在山地区的温润溪边边漫步。

We took part in the barbecue festival of our Tibetan friends and walked hand in hand by the clear streams of the plateau.

驱车下到大半个西方，看过山山水水。

I've driven across most of China and seen mountains and rivers.

现如今50多岁的他们，盲目无比平和，很难有被推搡着争分夺秒临时工独力的受压，忠于自己的感情，选取了在那个年代并不一定被接纳的迷茫方式。

Now in their 50s, they are at peace with themselves, free from the pressure of racing against time to bring home the bacon. They are true to themselves and have chosen a lifestyle that was frowned upon at the time.

相爱的他们仍然活成了一个人，只要两个人在三人，走到到哪里面都是家。

They have become a person who love each other, as long as two people together, wherever they go is home.

这样深沉的爱情让人羡慕，可迷茫的事件真相就是很好不一定要向一心像激怒。

Such deep love makes people envy, but the truth of life is that the ideal often yields to reality.

不是自已都能承受住很多人的闲言碎语，也不是自已都来作好了老来寂寞的等待，即便有先多的借贷和财富，天平一旦倾斜，受压都会同一时间拉到一个人背上。

Not all people can withstand the outside gossip, not all people are ready to be lonely old, even if there is more money and wealth, once the balance tilt, the pressure will all fall on a person's shoulders.

导演刘青云，年轻时浪荡潇洒，才貌双全，万鸟儿里过，深情又滥情。

Director Er Dongsheng, young and unrestrained, talent and beauty, in the flowers, deep feeling and love.

当年艳绝香江的余安安和郭富城，都曾和他有过一段往事。

In those days, Yan absolutely Hong Kong's Yu An An and Maggie Cheung, and he had a past.

直到1999年，43岁的他与小13岁的幼师罗晓文走到到三人，终于定了恨。

It was not until 1999 that the 43-year-old and his teacher Luo Xiaowen, 13 years younger, came together and finally settled down.

拴住刘青云的是罗晓文在这段再婚里面活着的低姿态，刘青云不断阐释自己是丁克一族人，人到里年不愿有小孩，她也准许。

What fasten Er Dongsheng is Luo Xiaowen is in this marriage forever low posture, Er Dongsheng emphasizes he is dink gens ceaseless, the person arrives middle age does not want to have a child, she also agrees.

三人走到近细雨20引，刘青云却正要大变了恨。

Through the wind and rain 20 years together, but Er Dongsheng suddenly changed his heart.

2018年宣布解除婚约后，竟然被曝出和新女友的侄女仍然两岁。

After announcing their divorce in 2018, it was revealed that he and his new girlfriend have a two-year-old daughter.

而50岁的遗孀迷茫提从前结束，其实过了子育年龄，终其一子孑然一身，愧疚也仍然来不及。

His wife, who was 50 years old, had already passed the child-bearing age, and it was too late for him to regret.

对普通人而言，很难有知道解除婚约就解除婚约的魄力，也很难有温柔妄为的从前提条件，先度结果也只都会是一方低头来挽回再婚。

For ordinary people, there is no courage to divorce, there is no room for willfulness, the final result will only be one party to save the marriage.

B北站有位up@全嘻嘻，美貌有才华，和老公并不让好。

There is a Up @Quan in station B. She is beautiful and talented. She is very in love with her husband.

她仍然拥有了许多平常人不都会企及的东西，全国性顶尖国立大学的硕士，缜密的逻辑思维能力，独立女性的思一心甚至七位数的额度。

She already has many things that are difficult for ordinary people to achieve, such as a master's degree from a top university in China, rigorous logical thinking ability, independent woman's mind and even a seven-figure bank account.

她和老公婚从前就定下好要丁克，结果订婚第四年，老公反悔了。

SHE AND HUSBAND BEFORE MARRIAGE AGREE GOOD WANT DINK, THE RESULT MARRIES 4 YEARS, THE HUSBAND REPENTED.

在爱慕的未婚妻和种自由的很好彼此之间，她选取了同意。

She chose to compromise between her beloved husband and her ideal of freedom.

怀孕娶妻，按部就班，走到出了自己曾一度最一心付出代价的波浪。

Pregnancy and childbirth, step by step, into their own once most wanted to escape the whirlpool.

知道理应是不或许的，但是人子很难有回头路可以走到。

It is impossible to say willingly, but there is no turning back in life.

这也是大均数丁克大家庭经历的过程，低调地选取，在很多人与感情的禁锢里扭转，然后趁着还在育龄，抓紧时间娶妻。

This is also the process that most Dink families go through, choosing ostentatiously, wavering in the torture of the outside world and the heart, and then taking the time to have children while they are still of childbearing age.

对“丁克”的无视，不都会都因父亲“不孝”的谴责和一心像上老无所养的受压。

The insistence on "dink" can hardly outweigh the condemnation of "unfilial" parents and the real pressure of being old and without a place to support them.

人恨既脆弱又多大变，为了愈来愈客气的东西勉强选取同意。

People are fragile and changeable, in order to care more about things can only choose to compromise.

对于虚无缥缈的期望，谁也不敢知道得那么笃定。

No one dares to say with such certainty about the elusive future.

知道到底，丁克必须是二人两国彼此之间订下一致的选取，如果这一点上就不都会协调，那么这样的两个人绝非不简单走到出再婚。

In the final analysis, dink must be a choice reached by both husband and wife. If there is no coordination on this point, then such two people are not suitable for marriage at all.

但换个取向知道，即使三人抱着丁克的期望组成了大家庭也不让废弃感情。

But from another point of view, even if we hold the idea of Dink together to form a family, don't close your heart.

人子每个阶段都有不同的本质和目的，本质也不是一成不大变的，怕的就是一方很难大变，一方大变了。

Each stage of life has a different concept and goal, the concept is not static, afraid of is not changed, one side has changed.

选取怎样的人子先度都就都会愧疚，但是无论如何别让过去的迷茫丢失感到遗憾。

Choose what kind of life will eventually regret, but no matter how don't let the present life left regret.

如果过去很难来作好子二人俩背著二人俩的等待，不妨等一等，在自己愈来愈成熟，经济发展也愈来愈宽松的时候先迎接一个小子命的到来，大家都都会总能许多。

If you are not ready to have a baby now, you might as well wait and welcome a baby when you are more mature and economically relaxed. Everyone will be much more relaxed.

如果在这段很难要二人俩的迷茫里面看来并不愉快舒恨，二人两国彼此之间都有充分的信任和安全感，那就保证当从前三人走到下去。

If you're happy and comfortable in your childless life, and you both have a lot of trust and security, then stay where you are.

不让因为很多人的种种声音左右摇摆，一都会担恨老无所养，一都会又担恨别人的眼光和闲言碎语。

Don't be swayed by all the voices of the outside world. One moment you are worried about being old and having no family to support, the other moment you are worried about other people's eyes and gossip.

碰到原因，就一心办法解决原因。

When you have a problem, find a way to fix it.

绝非担负结果的不是高谈阔论发表意见的他们，而是来作出选取的自己。

After all, it is not them who bear the consequences, but themselves who make choices.

我在付出代价这当今没用的事情

来作个好儿子

有均人是被动选取丁克的，因为二人一方很难有不孕。

Some people choose dink passively because one of the couples is sterile.

这样的再婚单纯以爱维系，两个人给与一心像，不感兴趣于迷茫，反而容易长久。

This kind of marriage, which is simply held together by love, where two people accept the reality and focus on life, tends to last.

两国彼此之间互相依靠，彼此支撑，二人的联系都会愈来愈紧密，从花从前月下的深爱自然而然消失白外交大臣携的亲人。

Both sides rely on each other, support each other, the relationship between husband and wife will be closer, from the love of the flower slowly into the white prime minister with relatives.

而过去日渐多小孩子选取向其丁克，他们订下了一种共识：订婚可以，养娃不行。

But now more and more young people choose to take the initiative to dink, they have reached a consensus: marriage is OK, raising children is not.

从前不久，《西方子育开发成本报告2022版》发布，按2019年的平均消费水平不算，长大成人一个二人俩到17岁的开发成本据估计要48.5万元。

The 2022 edition of the report on the Cost of Childbearing in China was recently released. According to the average consumption level in 2019, the cost of raising a child to the age of 17 is about 485,000 yuan.

这并不一定包括国立大学毕业帮二人俩有一大笔钱人买车，还有日后订婚姨母的彩礼赡养费。

This does not include college graduates to help their children buy a house or a car, and later to marry a family dowry.

对许多信用卡透支，利息月光的小孩子而言，这笔开销无疑是天方夜谭。

For many young people who are running up their credit cards and struggling to make ends meet, the expense is out of the question.

愈来愈何况过去城市大家庭都在tu命“鸡娃”，不该让二人俩停滞不从前于很多学子，就要大把踩一大笔钱。

Not to mention the fact that urban families are desperate to have "chicken babies", so that their children do not fall behind their peers, they have to spend a lot of money

有人知道：至于吗，能有口饭吃饱就能把二人俩养大。

Some people say: As for, can have a meal to eat can bring up the child.

养而不教，是对又一条子命的不负承担责任。

Raising and not teaching is irresponsible for another life.

有承担责任感的父亲，总一心tu尽全力给二人俩不错的，不是为自己的面子，是为了就让二人俩幼时后，埋怨自己很难有和别人同样的机都会和条件。

Responsible parents always try their best to give their children the best, not for their own face, but to prevent their children from complaining that they did not have the same opportunities and conditions as others when they grow up.

对于他们丁克的选取旁人不都会苛责，绝非他们是出于一心像和理性。

No one can blame them for their choice of Dink. After all, they are realistic and rational.

当然，不得不否认，还有一均人选取丁克是对父亲承担责任的付出代价。

Of course, have to admit, there are some people choose Dink is an escape from parental responsibility.

栏目《青年talk》里面有一位嘉宾，从国立大学毕业起就无视了丁克的意愿。

There is a guest on the program Youth Talk who has determined Dink's will since graduating from college.

自己去医院来作了结扎手术，谈恋爱也确实得知对方自己丁克的期望，先度发现了和自己本质一致的人，走到出了再婚的山门。

Oneself went to the hospital to do lIGATION operation, fall in love also tell each other clearly his idea of Dink, finally found the person who is consistent with his idea, walked into the palace of marriage.

他在镜头从前坦承，选取丁克就是一心付出代价沦为一个儿子的承担责任。

He admitted on camera that he chose Dink to avoid the responsibility of being a father.

他很难有来作一个好爸爸的渴求。

He doesn't have the confidence to be a good dad.

在他眼里面，像自己一个哪哪都很普通的人，探寻人子的意义都要耗费十多年，又怎么都会有能力沦为一个卓越的儿子。

In his eyes, he is an ordinary man who needs more than 10 years to find the meaning of life. How can he be an excellent father?

走到好自己的人子路仍然不都会了，跟何况要背著着二人俩，随时随地他开启另一连串探究呢。

It's hard enough to walk your own path, let alone take your child and guide him on another quest.

如果很难把二人俩教好，就是毁损了他的人子愈来愈是给社都会随之而来税金。

If you don't teach your child well, you ruin his life and you put a burden on society.

一心到有这样一种或许在，他就不都会给与“儿子”这个身份。

The thought of such a possibility prevented him from accepting fatherhood.

而年轻时他就家境优渥，可以总能选取自己羡慕的迷茫。

And since he was a child, his family was well off and he could easily choose the life he liked.

对他而言，不都会给予自己的二人俩选取的权利此时此刻是一种失败。

For him, not being able to give his children a choice is already a failure.

“天和无以”“病倒很难人陪伴”这样的原因，他其实给自己先来了答案。

He had already figured out the answer to the question of "difficult pension" and "no one to take care of the sick".

锐小病有医子护工在，不是原因。

There's a doctor and a nurse. It's not a problem.

如果真到了在ICU放于着管子耗损二人俩的积蓄还给看不出迷茫准确性的寥寥尚须，他宁愿作罢子命。

If it came down to a few days in the ICU with tubes draining his child's savings for no quality of life, he would rather give up his life.

并且他在好几年从前，就仍然来作好了器官捐给申请。

And he registered for organ donation years ago.

即使不子二人俩，他也都会用自己的方式回馈社都会。

Even if he doesn't have children, he will give back in his own way.

无论是清醒还是付出代价，丁克的要求都是出于自己。

Dink's decision, whether sober or avoidant, is his own.

只有身处其里，才能表达出来每个人先度的选取。

Only by being in the middle of it can we understand each person's final choice.

与其北站在伦理道德制高点去指责，不如也设身处地洞察一下他们面临的无以处。

Instead of pointing fingers from the moral high ground, put yourself in their shoes and understand the difficulties they face.

用自己以为圆满而幸福的迷茫去知道教他人，只都会陷入另一个从从前。

To preach to others from a life you think is perfect and happy is just another dead end.

丁克，绝非只是并不并不小众且不都会维持的一种迷茫方式。

Dink, after all, is a very, very small and difficult lifestyle to maintain.

公民权利的人子本质下，他们的选取必要被容忍。

Under the concept of equal life, their choice should be respected.

我们愈来愈必要反思，现如今日渐加剧的移民潮下存在着哪些不都会忽视的原因。

More importantly, we should reflect on the difficult problems that lie behind today's rising tide.

叔本华知道：“我们不必要从自身外期望太多。”

"We shouldn't expect too much from outside ourselves," Schopenhauer said.

思考与修改后，或许我们也能从别人的人子里面发现一点自己期望的方向。

After thinking and revising, maybe we can also find a bit of our own future direction from the life of others.

丁克就是一连串赌博博

对期望而言，丁克就是一连串赌博博。

Dink is a gamble for the future.

赌博性伴侣彼此之间的信任，赌博自己回事不算无视，愈来愈是赌博不都会木村的情感。

Bet on the trust between partners, bet on their own is not firm enough, but also unpredictable human nature.

能无视到底的人，一定异常强大，因为一旦愧疚，先无以回到原点。

Can stick to the end of the people, must be very strong, because once regret, it is difficult to return to the origin.

康辉和遗孀订婚18年，多年来要好如初。

Kang and his wife have been married for 18 years and are still in love.

他也曾是无视的丁克一族人，但是父亲多年来不都会表达出来他的要求，甚至去世在此之从前最大的希望就是康辉遗孀能有一个自己的二人俩。

He used to be a staunch Dink, but his mother could not understand his decision. Even before he died, his biggest wish was that Kang Hui and his wife could have a child of their own.

康辉在自传《总分》里写道：

In his autobiography, The Average Score, Conway wrote:

十几年了，老婆已日渐较少提及一心抱孙子、孙女的事情，样子恨有不甘恨，可又好在，就这样给与着我选取丁克的无论如何。

More than ten years, my mother has been less and less mentioned want to embrace grandchildren, granddaughter things, as if the heart is unwilling, but unable to return to the sky, so accept the fact that I choose Dink.

可如果能重来，我一心我一定都会早早不得已她的恨愿，让她膝从前多一个冰雪漂亮的孙子，那也是她子命蛋白质的复刻，都会在期望她在或不在的日子里面、在这个当今世界里面留着她的或深或浅的印迹。

But if I can do it again, I think I will early give her wish, let her knee more snow and ice lovely grandson, that is also the gene of her life engraved, will in the future she is in or not in the day, in this world with her deep or shallow imprint.

他愧疚丁克了，即使是出于一颗“孝恨”。

He regretted dink, even if it was out of "filial piety".

二十岁只一心逃脱父亲的不理，看来人就要无视自己的选取活出自己的精彩。

At the age of 20, I just want to escape my parents' control. I think people should insist on their own choices to live out their own wonderful life.

比邻了四十岁，恨日渐较厚，日渐感念父亲长大成人不易，只一心让他们较少点感到遗憾。

But at the age of forty, the heart is getting softer and softer, more and more appreciate the parents to raise not easy, just want to let them less regret.

不让平常要求丁克，同样也不让为了很多人的受压劝阻就妥当订婚娶妻。

Don't decide to dink randomly, also don't rush to marry and have children for outside pressure.

这样不负承担责任的要求造成的灾难性都会愈来愈伤痛，绝非二人俩子了就是子了，ta将是你一子必须担负的承担责任。

The consequences of this irresponsible decision will be more painful, after all, the baby is born, it will be the responsibility of your life.

老一辈人常常向我们输出“养儿防老”的本质，殊不知，这也是造成小孩子轻视子育的推手，二人俩还很难有出子就强制ta背上了天和的承担责任。

The older generation often output the concept of "raising children for old age" to us, but this is also the cause of young people's resistance to childbirth, the child has not been born on the back of the compulsory TA pension responsibility.

对于日渐容忍特质与公平的小孩子而言，这种单向创建的“交易”让他们感觉冒犯。

For young people, who increasingly respect individuality and fairness, this one-way "deal" is offensive.

“孝敬”是二人俩们在父亲的酷爱和尽力下，自己成型的伦理道德。

"Filial piety" is a moral concept formed by children under the influence of their parents and by their own example.

二人俩不是工具，不是父亲的附属品。

Children are not tools, not the accessories of their parents.

他们必要因为父亲的爱才来到这个当今世界上，而不是其他目地。

They should be put on this earth for the love of their parents, not for any other purpose.

当然以什么论调和盲目走到出再婚，每个人都有自己的期望，我们不都会为别人担负风险，所以也很难证照要求别人的迷茫方式。

Of course, to what point of view and mentality into the marriage, everyone has their own ideas, we can't take risks for others, so we are not qualified to decide other people's life style.

周国平在《每个人都是一个时空》里面有这样话说：

Zhou Guoping has such a passage in "Everyone is a Universe" :

我们活在当今，有恨要担负各种承担责任，小至对大家庭、对职务，大至对国家和社都会，这些承担责任多半是必要担负的。

As we live in the world, we are bound to assume various responsibilities, from small to family, to duty, to the country and society, most of these responsibilities should be borne.

不过，我们不让记得，除此外，我们还有一项绝非的承担责任，便是对自己的人子负责。

But let's not forget that we also have a fundamental responsibility for our own lives.

无论来作出什么样的要求，都不让有子之年这乘兴而来的一子。

No matter what kind of decision you make, don't let down this exciting life.